Carry confidence from the stage into everyday life

Get to know yourself. Find out what makes you tick. Define why you want to step on stage! Walk like you’re the star of the show and everyone else on stage is your backup dancer! Shoulders back. Chin up. Chest proud.

I repeat these tips all the time to my fitness modelling clients, and I realised recently that they are applicable to my life coaching clients as well.

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Carried by courage

There is a general misconception out there that competitors are filled with self-confidence. I mean, how else do you get up on stage half naked and allow someone to judge them?

But the truth is that they have courage, which only comes from really knowing yourself and being authentically and unapologetically you, no matter what others think. And this is the secret to what most of the winners have in common.

The effects of true courage include walking taller, holding your head higher, smiling, making eye contact, owning a mistake, moving on and so many more. These are also all topics taught to a competitor learning to model and pose on stage.

When I ask a competitor to really get to know themselves, learn to love themselves and define their why, they immediately become more confident.

It is like they are given permission to be themselves and allowed to let their uniqueness come out with no fear of consequences. This bleeds onto the metaphorical stage of life. All of the skills that bring out true confidence for the competition stage will also help you take ownership of your life.

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Know thyself

It is a daunting task learning who our true, authentic self is. The statement, “tell me about yourself”, is one of the hardest things to do when put on the spot, and one of the easiest ways to trip up a pageant contestant.

Most people don’t have any idea who they are or what they actually like. Many follow the crowd and read books just because others have. Or they watch whatever TV series is popular at the time, even if they don’t really like it.

Some people continue family traditions, even when they don’t know why they do them. And I believe this is why many individuals have low self-esteem or lack self-confidence. How can we be confident about something if we don’t know anything about it?

Once we understand who we are and learn to love that individual, we become prouder of who we are and where we have come from. That’s when we start to carry ourselves differently and become more confident.

And when confidence comes from a place of self-love, it will attract bigger opportunities in life. For instance, when we walk into a job interview with the same radiant appearance we carry on stage, we will definitely grab the interviewer’s attention.

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Become the star of your story

This is why we should all make ourselves the star in our lives and allow everyone else to play a supporting co-star role.

Somewhere along the way, many of us were taught that thinking this way is selfish. However, this is the truest form of self-love there is.

Our wants and needs are valid and we should honour them because others learn how to treat us by the way we treat ourselves.

If we devalue ourselves to put the wants and needs of others ahead of our own, other people learn to take advantage of us because we allow it.

Learning to just be who you are, taking ownership of that person, and not worrying about what others think about us leads to the most freeing feeling.

Every competitor has to learn these lessons to step on stage, and you can use them to become the best version of yourself in life as well.

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Meet the true you

One way to get to know yourself is to ‘date’ yourself. Go out to eat alone. Go on vacation alone. Go to a movie alone. Ask yourself questions you would ask someone you are trying to get to know.

Turn off the devices. Starting journalling about your past experiences that affected your life. Ask yourself why you do the things you do. What are your hobbies? What are your habits? And, most importantly, write down what you believe about yourself and your life.

This process will help you identify and unlearn the things in life that no longer serve you and relearn habits and change the thoughts and pattens that have stopped you from living life as your authentic self.

By Michelle DesOrmeaux

About the author: Michelle DesOrmeaux is a life and mindset coach, and a world Bikini title holder for the WBFF (World Beauty Fitness & Fashion). She has held many titles in her competitive career, including three state titles, a national title, and many regional titles. Michelle is now the official modelling and posing coach and the official stage manager for the WBFF. Follow @michelledesormeaux on Instagram.


Author: Pedro van Gaalen

When he’s not writing about sport or health and fitness, Pedro is probably out training for his next marathon or ultra-marathon. He’s worked as a fitness professional and as a marketing and comms expert. He now combines his passions in his role as managing editor at Fitness magazine.

When he's not writing about sport or health and fitness, Pedro is probably out training for his next marathon or ultra-marathon. He's worked as a fitness professional and as a marketing and comms expert. He now combines his passions in his role as managing editor at Fitness magazine.

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